How not to change" Keep thinking on the same thoughts when those thoughts don't help.
Instead Fix Your Thoughts On What Is True,Honorabe,Right, Lovely, and Admirable.
Philippians 4:8 And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise
How not to change" Keep putting yourself in the same unhelpful environment.
Put more importance on being right rather than changing.
The Lord Will Lead And Guide You! Trust Him!
Proverbs 3: 5-6 Trust in the LORD with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding.
Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take.